i was at home this morning typing up a couple legal documents for some general contractors to sign that were going to be doing some tree removal on my property, when i get a visit from a sister in the hall i used to attend.
she usually stops by at least once a week.
i haven't been to meetings for over a year now and didn't attend memorial this year, but she was quick to remind me how i missed out.
Something I like to do in such circumstances is ask out right but very politely:
"Susan ( place her name here), do you count your time for when you're talking to me?"
And then just look at her and say nothing. Wait for a reply.Even if it takes a while and there is an embarasing silence.
If it is true, then you probably wont see her again.
Oh, and for whatever answer she gives, just say, pensively, " I thought so".
jlp
i have a few questions regarding moving and changing congs.
i would love to hear from former elders.. .
my wife and i will be moving soon, and as i described in an earlier post we will be using the move as an opportunity to fade.
Hi evilone.
Dacheech is right about your family forwarding your address via the bethel.
However they would only do that if they wanted someone to call on you. ( its what my dad did, and I live in another country now ), suspecting that you were inactive.
I am supposing you want to fade so as to keep contact with family members in the borg?
Have you thought what would happen if they came to visit you. The well indoctrinated nearly always want to go to
the meetings with you.
i can't believe how people in the "organization" can be so cold hearted.. .
last october, i got an invitation to a friends wedding where i grew up in portland, oregon.
i now live in san diego, california.
Sorry to here your story EXMS.
What really surprises me though, is that yor "friend" knew you were going. He could have had the decency to have telephoned and explained the situation, thus saving you the long trip. That would have at the very least been the correct thing to do.
despite the fact that i officially left the jws last october i still had a big issue to deal with.
i was still living at home.
many of you are aware of the kind of pressure that parents can put on you.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
Enjoy!
jlp
as the title asks, does this mean that the person has been disfellowship on the basis on what the wb&ts considers as a sin or would this more like the person no longer wants to be a jw?.
It is the standard announcement, read word for word, when someone is disfellowshipped.
I seem to recall that in the past it was read "... disfellowshipped for conduct unbecoming a Christian".
A such announcement left them open, in some cases, for slander charges, and so now, no reasons are given.
jlp
it's the big 3 0 for carrot today!.
happy birthday you vegetable!.
peace.
Happy birthday carrot.
Have a great day
jlp
i have been df-ed for almost 9 years.
just out of curiosity, has anyone decided to find another religion or belief after being jw?
i struggle with my feelings, my mom and brother, aunt, cousins are all jw.
Welcome aboard anniegirl.
Many of us here have suffered the same sense of loss, being cut of from the family.
I find that it does help, reading and commenting here.
Do you have any family who are not jws?
I found an uncle/ aunt and cousins who I had not seen for 30 years.
I must relate that story one day. Our first meet up was like something from a prime time TV show.
They are my closest and dearest family now. That helps alot.
Good luck, and once again welcome.
PS for the religious side, I'm like minimus
it was awesome!
i met so many wonderful people!
i'm glad i finally got the chance to go.
Good for you sd-7.
Have a nice easter .
jlp
hi to all the brothers and sisters and friends who are using this site.
this is just to introduce myself.
my name is dan edmund, and am a fellow witness from australia.
Hello Dan and welcome to the board. It sounds as if you have an interesting life, and are happy with your choice
I respect that. The jw couple that I respect most, told me that "even if it is not "the truth", they have had a happy life themselves in pursuing that course.
I have followed the conversation above with interest. It is true that we dont want to scare you away, saying we are largely considered " apostates" according to the WTBS precepts.
We are in fact normal friendly peolpe, who have our own point of view.
However, I think it is also good and to be up front, and not hide who we are. Jws are not always like that, in my opinion.
Anyway, Dan, most everyone here, I'm sure, wishes you and your wife every happiness in your chosen way.
jlp
hi i was just looking for some advice.
i have been studying with the jw's for over a year now, and attended 2 memorials and the district/assembly conventions.
at first, and up until very recently i truly believed what i was learning was the truth.
You seem clear in your head and heart: you do not want to be a jw.
You do not have to justify yourself. As others have said. Just tell them that you are no longer interested.
They will try and " softly softly" ask why, etc etc . They are trained to deal with this kind of situation.
You must be firm.
If it is not your personality, to be firm, and you are a little afraid, maybe ask someone to be with you. They could wait in the kitchen/bedroom, intervening if the person gets too pushy.
And frankly, you do not want this person to stay your friend. Its not their fault, but they are programmed to keep coming back and trying again, always on the charge, always waiting for a moment of weakness. It would be better for you, never to see them again.
Good luck. Be strong. We are thinking of you.
very practical ideas anewme
